Wednesday, November 16, 2011

Happy Birthday to Me!!

I turned 28 today.

I feel like I'm turning 16.


Because this is the first year where I'm having a celebration as myself.  As Vic.  The first time since I was 15 that I'm not an afterthought or forgotten or where my birthday is having to take a backseat to someone else's celebration.

This is the first year that I feel really and truly loved and supported and it's an amazing thing.

Even in the midst of all of the hell and drama and turmoil that is currently rocking the online M/M community (which I will not discuss), I am surrounded by family.  The family of my choosing.  A family that knows me, supports me anyway, and encourages me to continue to live my truth.

A family where every member wrote to me ahead of time to either wish me Happy Birthday ahead of time, to ask me what I wanted for my birthday (what?! You mean you WANT to give me a present?!), to tell me how proud of me they are, how much they support me and how they want me to keep pushing forward and how they would do anything for me.

This is the first year that I'm not having to force myself or remind myself that I have to be a "girl" in order to please my family.  This is the first year that I won't be calling my friends to come and take me out so I can self-medicate with alcohol over the fact that I had to force myself to be a girl all day long.  This is the first year, of many years to come, where the smile on my face will be genuine and I'll be surrounded by love and affection and support.

This year is the first year, the first birthday, of the rest of my life and it is delicious.

I couldn't ask for a better family if I tried.

So to my mothers:
            Stephani Hecht
            NJ Nielsen
To my older brothers:
            Damon Suede
             Brendan (Sid)
To my older sisters:
            MJ O'Shea
            Piper Vaughn
            Cherie Noel
            Taylor Donovan
            LC Chase
            Heidi Cullinan
            Xara X Xanakas
To my younger brothers:
            Thorny-TTBB (and his Jazz)
To the awesomest Nieceling and Nephrew ever!
To my younger sister:
To my aunts:
            Embry Carlysle
            Anne Tenino
And to countless friends and supporters and my special English sweethearts:
            Bryl Tyne
            DC Juris
            Daniel Kaine
            Ellis Carrington
            Devon Rhodes
            Gabrielle Evans
            Joyee Flynn
            TA Chase
            Stormy Glenn
            Ethan Day
            Shae Connor
And anyone else that I forgot:

 Thank You All So Much! You are the GREATEST Family a gay boy like me could ever ask for!




  1. I'm so glad you finally can celebate your birthday like you want! *hugs* Enjoy your birthday waffles and cake and presents and all the love we send to you!!! Have fun, little bro!!! :D

  2. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, my big brother! You are a very, very special person and have meant more to me than you will ever know. I love knowing our birthdays are just a day apart, but even if it wasn't, how could I ever forget you?

    I love you, support you, feel proud of you, cherish your spirit and mostly love knowing that I'm part of your family! Always!

    So, big brother, you have the best birthday ever! You deserve all the love coming your way!



  3. So pleased to hear that you are having such a fantastic birthday... enjoy the rest of your day... and long may the good things continue into the future


  4. Thank you all so very, very much. I appreciate the birthday wishes and the continued support. They certainly mean a lot to me. Especially now. Thanks again!

  5. Ooh, birthday waffles. Love it!! Sooo glad to hear your bday is going to be one for the ages. I love it when the universe comes together like this. Yay!!!!

  6. YOU feel honored to have this chosen family?? My dear friend, I think a lot of people (including me) feel honored to be in YOUR family! You are so special and precious! I hope you know that!! Love you, Matty

  7. Thanks Luci and Becky!!

    Matty: Did you and Brad get together and say "Let's make our Big Brother cry by telling him a lot of really amazing things and make him feel all loved and shit. You know he'll cry, it'll be fun"? You are so sweet!! This is so why I love you both! Thank you so much for that! Love you Lil' Brother.

  8. Happy Birthday big brother! I love you and hope it was and is still an amazing day for you and night.

    I am so proud to be apart of your family. You are so sweet and kind and you make sure that you support us through things just as you get the support you need. I don't just love you because of that. I love you BECAUSE you are one amazing sexy gay man who has a heart of pure gold.

    ~Hugs you tightly and kisses your cheek~ You be happy and have a very very Happy Birthday and sing loud and proud because you are very and truly special.

  9. Happy Birthday Vic! I hope your day was as fantastic as it could possibly be and may every birthday be just as better than this one!!


  10. Thanks Lucy/Kat!

    Thank you CJ (I can't BELIEVE I forgot to put your name on that list!!!!! I am SOOOOO sorry! You have been nothing BUT supportive to me!). The day was fabulous, it just got better as the day progressed. Thank you so much for the birthday wishes and for the support I truly do appreciate it. I do.

  11. Vic,
    I was so pleased to see my name with all your other friends and supporters. I feel truly honored.

    You are so special, never let a day go by that you don't remember that! Never let another birthday pass that isn't spent in perfection because it is YOUR day.

    Happy Birthday dearest Vic

    Huge, I mean REALLY huge, and squishy birthday hugs to you!

  12. Archie, you have been so supportive of course your name is on the list. Thank you so much for your kind words and your hugz. I appreciate it.

  13. A belated Happy Birthday, Vic *huggs you*
    I'm sorry I'm a bit late, but Blogger just acted up again and didn't show me anything at all *grumbles*
    Anyway, I hope you had a fantastic and wonderful day and your ankle is getting better!!!
    And I have to admit I blushed when I saw my name there in your list, totally didn't expect that :)
    You are a wonderful person, Vic and I hope your life from now on will be full of the joy and happiness you are currently experiencing!!

  14. I'm a total shit of a big bro for missing this, but I was ordered to stay away for awhile till I got my shit together soooo better late than nevva for you my l'il bro: HAPPY BIRTHDAY yeah hawt mofo! :grinning wide:


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