Saturday, November 12, 2011

I Feel Pretty, and Witty, and GAY!!! & Happy Feet 2

So here in my new adopted family it is not unheard of for one of us to break out into a random song....okay, okay, it's usually me.

The other day, however, the Nieceling let me know that if I was going to break out into song that I HAD to sing:

I feel pretty.  Oh so pretty.  I feel pretty, and witty, and GAY!!

It was hilarious and we all laughed really hard, but that night when I went to bed I had to be honest with myself.

I feel plenty witty.  I'm an author, so wittiness is like a pre-requisite.

I also feel plenty gay.  I mean...DUH!  And being here in NY there seems to be a bountiful amount of beautiful gay boys for me to flirt with.

It's that pretty thing that chokes me up.

You see, I can't remember the last time I actually looked at myself in the mirror.  I pretty much make it a point NOT to do so.

I know you're wondering why.

Because in my head, I'm Vic, but physically I'm still Vee and it's heartbreaking for me.  I hate looking in the mirror and expecting to see a man but only seeing a female.  As a matter of fact, I've but my hair twice in the last month, it's now to the middle of my cheeks and today was the first day that someone said to me "Excuse me sir."  I grinned so wide when that happened.

But you know what?  I still don't look in the mirror.  I avoid them with extreme fervor and that's nothing on going out in public and having to use the restroom and having to force myself to go into the women's bathroom because I don't want to cause a problem.

But today I went out with the Nieceling and my older adopted sister to see a free prescreen of Happy Feet 2 and I was blown away by how awesome this movie is.  The story line was excellent, but the lessons that ran rampant through the whole movie was even more amazing (there is even a gay couple in the movie.  Will and Bill Krill. Bill: "We can have our own swarm"  Will: "We're both men."  Bill: "We can adopt.").

Realizing that everyone is different but that means that everyone is special.  That sometimes people will pick on your differences but that you have to find that something strong inside of you that will help you to stand up in the face of that bullying (think: "It Gets Better.").  But the greatest lesson: The very thing that makes you different and special, makes you beautiful and gives you the strength and power that you need to overcome any obstacle and any challenge.

And I wish I could tell you that I came home and stared at myself in the mirror and told myself that I'm a pretty gay boy, but I'd be lying and you all know I'm very brutally honest, especially with myself.

No, I still can't really face that reflection that doesn't show what I feel and see on the inside, but I can tell you that I have realized that the very thing that made my family turn their backs on me, the very thing that made me lose friends, the very thing that drove me to move all the way from Florida to New York, is the very thing that makes me special, that makes me different.

It's the very thing that makes me beautiful.

And one day I'm going to be able to face my image and see Vic and not some strange mixture of Vic & Vee or just Vee and I'm going to smile broadly, square my shoulders and sing at the top of my lungs:


And I'm going to mean it.


  1. Big Brother your amazing...when you can face the reflection think of this....You have always been Vic no matter how long it takes for you to look and see yourself as you are...You are Vic through and through. ~Hugs tightly~ Love you Big Brother

  2. *hugs*
    Take your time!
    I'm sure that one day you will be able to see your true self in the mirror :) You are Vic and just because the stupid mirror didn't get the memo, doesn't mean you have to feel bad about it. The mirror just doesn't reflect who you really are, but don't worry, the people around you know exactly who you are and that's what counts :)

  3. Oh Vic,
    You've said before that you avoid looking in the mirror. And I can understand your point of view.
    This may sound cliche, but there's reason for that... but more than what is on the outside view, you are beautiful inside, through and through. You are smart, kind, loyal, protective, out spoken in the fight for others. THAT is what is important. And because I can't see you, that is what I see.
    One day you will see who you want in the mirror, and that person you see will be beautiful inside AND out.
    Many comforting hugs to you...

  4. Thank you ladies for your comments and your unceasing encouragement of me. My adopted Older Sister, Cherie, is helping me to get more comfortable and helping me to transition and stuff. She's going to make sure that I see Vic ASAP. She says that she already sees me though and that she doesn't even see Vee at all. But she keeps talking about how cute her "little brother" is.


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